What Round Is This . . . . . . . 10+

Phone call received at 10 this morning from L - in tears - hardly able to speak. She and Justin had gotten into a huge fight - Justin told her they were over and that she needed to move out of the apartment! She called me because she had nowhere to go - she didn't ask to come back but she certainly hinted around about it - I didn't offer. I gave her some suggestion like - call some of her other friends to see if she can crash with them - she said that she couldn't. Get a job so she can afford a place - said she had no gas in her car - again. She said she wanted me to just help her.

The fight they had seems to have stemmed from Justin's jealousy and lack of trust for L. She went with him and a group of people from the warehouse to Moses Lake on Monday to help out with a job. Monday night when it was getting late Justin went to their room and L stayed up with the group to finish her beer. Justin came out a few minutes later to fine L sitting on the edge of a chair next to one of the guys and he had his hand on L's thigh. Justin got mad - they had a huge fight - he wouldn't believe L that nothing was going on. Told her that as soon as she got paid for the warehouse job she had to move out - he was done dealing with her.

I don't know what happened in the past between them - I just know that L needs to figure things out. I can't be her safety net - she will never hit rock bottom and make changes if I am always there to clean up the mess.

Lessons I hope she learns from this

• Don't live with someone who can kick you out at any given moment without having a back up plan.
• If you know you're boyfriend has trust issues - don't put yourself in situations that can be misinterpreted.
• Have your own job and money so you don't have to rely on someone else to take care of you so you don't feel trapped in a relationship.
  
• Keep your Independence

Tony - next time you feel like saying my blog has been kinda boring and needs some drama . . . . bite your tongue!!
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