Here's the deal. L got paid yesterday - rent was due - she didn't pay me. She said she would write me a check but she didn't - I started to suspect that she had no intention of paying me like what happened the last time so I checked with the bank to see if she could cover a check for $284 - Nope. The agreement was that she pays rent or she moves out. Ah Crap - Now What! I took a poll at work and it ranged from Kick Her Out to Not Sure. No one said to keep her and let it slide. My counselor said to kick her out - my Mom said to give her 30 days notice.
When L got home things did not go well - the way she argues is to draw your focus away from the topic and to attack, putting you on the defensive - Yup - I became the Bitch with a stick up my ass again. During the argument she kicked the couch - screamed at the top of her lungs for me to shut up - and she was trying really hard not to do something (she had her arm raised as if to hit me) and if I didn't shut up she wasn't going to be able to. Very scary living with this person. I told her she had 3-days to get the money or move out - she said it was unfair of me to ask for something I knew she couldn't get - don't even try to understand L Logic! She said I wanted her to live on the streets, that I don't care about her, and again I am a bitch. She has nowhere to go - no one to stay with - and on and on and on.
So now I need to come up with a plan. If I decide to give her until Aug 5th - at which time she will owe 2 months rent and 2 months phone - does that make me a marshmallow? If I make her move out right now does that make me an uncaring, unfeeling, bitch? Is there a happy medium here? Is there any way for me to come out of this without feeling like I gave in yet again?
Here is what I'm thinking - Give her a 20 Day Eviction Notice - this gives her until 8/5 which is her next pay day. At that time she needs to pay July and Aug rent and phone. If she doesn't have the money on that day then she will need to move out. During the 3 weeks she also needs to look for another job that will pay her enough that she can live on - and if College (Renton VoTech) is what she wants to do then she needs to have taken the necessary steps to register for classes. Basically - she needs to start making plans for her life.
Part of me thinks I am just giving her 3 weeks more of a free ride and the other part thinks I am giving her a specific deadline with specific items that need to be done - everything is spelled out.
Any suggestions?
De
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
Monday, July 7, 2008
Updates
Here are some updates to issues:
1. I got an email from WA State DCS letting me know about a check that is being sent to me. It's the IRS money - but it's not the full amount as indicated by the email from Fred - it is just 1/2 of it $750. I guess this means the IRS decided to split the refund amount. This doesn't surprise me as the 2007 tax refund was only 1/2 of what Alan said it was going to be so they must have gotten the other 1/2. So - the email from Fred was unnecessary - never needed to be sent. Never needed to get involved in an issue that was none of his business.
2. Here are some before and after pictures of L's bedroom and bathroom. I did a pretty darn good job of cleaning!
3. Vegas in 89 days!!
Quarter End is almost over. I got in at 715 this morning and left for home at 645 - almost a 12 hour day. L was gone when I got home but I did talk to her on the phone - using my blue tooth now that it is illegal to use your cell phone in the car without a hands free device. She got paid today and said she will give me her rent check when she gets home tonight. I'll let you know if that happens. I need to collect it ASAP before she is overdrawn on her account again.
Have a good week!
De
1. I got an email from WA State DCS letting me know about a check that is being sent to me. It's the IRS money - but it's not the full amount as indicated by the email from Fred - it is just 1/2 of it $750. I guess this means the IRS decided to split the refund amount. This doesn't surprise me as the 2007 tax refund was only 1/2 of what Alan said it was going to be so they must have gotten the other 1/2. So - the email from Fred was unnecessary - never needed to be sent. Never needed to get involved in an issue that was none of his business.
2. Here are some before and after pictures of L's bedroom and bathroom. I did a pretty darn good job of cleaning!
3. Vegas in 89 days!!
Quarter End is almost over. I got in at 715 this morning and left for home at 645 - almost a 12 hour day. L was gone when I got home but I did talk to her on the phone - using my blue tooth now that it is illegal to use your cell phone in the car without a hands free device. She got paid today and said she will give me her rent check when she gets home tonight. I'll let you know if that happens. I need to collect it ASAP before she is overdrawn on her account again.
Have a good week!
De
Sunday, July 6, 2008
She's Baaaaack!
Vacation is over - L is back - and it didn't take very long for her to start back in right where she left off. She has no gas in her car - only has $10 - wants to drive to visit her friend Mikey. Not sure where Mikey lives but she was looking up addresses on Google Map and she said $10 worth of gas wouldn't get her there. So you know what happened next - she wanted to borrow more money from me - I said No that I didn't have any money - she said "Then let me have your car" - I said No - she said why - I said you don't have a license - she said it wasn't a problem before - I said it is now - and she then wanted to know who put the stick up my ass. Oh yeah - that's a good way to try to get me to change my mind!! She then says either give me money or give me your keys - those our your only 2 options. Uhh - I don't think so. I said - It's not my fault you have no gas in your car - you have no money. She then says Jenny owes her $20 bucks and can she just use my car to go to her house. No, she can walk. Why? - yup I think we already went through all this and it ended again with her wanting to know why I have a stick up my ass. I am so glad she's home!! So - not sure what her plans are but she's putting stuff in her bag and seems to be heading out. I guess now I will pick up all the crap she left strewn from the front door to her room and shove it all in her room. I have a clean house and it will be staying that way.
Oh - one of her things about borrowing money was that she gets her pay check tomorrow. I said I ahve no money to loan her but after my tenant pays me tomorrow I will! She was not happy and siad why would i bring that up when she is in the middle of saying she has no money. Hmmm.
De
Oh - one of her things about borrowing money was that she gets her pay check tomorrow. I said I ahve no money to loan her but after my tenant pays me tomorrow I will! She was not happy and siad why would i bring that up when she is in the middle of saying she has no money. Hmmm.
De
Friday, July 4, 2008
Fourth of July
Happy Fourth of July!!
I slept in this morning - wonderful!! I leisurely got ready to go to La Conner - packed up my stuff and Muppet's. The drive up to La Conner wasn't bad - there wasn't as much traffic as I thought there would be so the drive went pretty quick - I listened to the Mariner's play and win a baseball game on the radio.
We sat outside and had chips. Then we had barbecued steak for dinner - really good. Dad really knows how to barbecue - it's always good when he cooks. Although - I wonder if the chicken in Chelan is ready yet!!! (little inside joke from family vacations!)
We just got done watching a DVD - Vantage Point. It was pretty good. Mom fell asleep during it though so we will need to wake her up to watch the fireworks on TV at 10. I can hear fireworks going off in La Conner right now. For those of you that don't
know - La Conner is right next to an Indian Reservation so they have a lot of cool fireworks.I chatted online last night with L. She is having a good time. Today they were going to spend the day at the beach boogie boarding in the Atlantic Ocean. Sounds like a good time.
Tomorrow I will stop at the Berry Barn on my way home to get fresh strawberries and raspberries. Muppet has a grooming appointment at 130 tomorrow afternoon so we will leave La Conner probably at 1100.
Hope everyone had a safe 4th of July!
De
Thursday, July 3, 2008
The Week Has Ended
I made it to the end of the week. All that getting in early and staying late paid off - I don't have t0 go to work tomorrow!! Yay - I actually get a 3 day weekend! It was a long week but well worth it.
The plan for tomorrow is to head up to La Conner to be with Mom and Dad for a barbecue. I don't think the firework noise will bother Muppet - she hardly budged last night during the thunder storm and it didn't bother her when the thunder started up again this morning. I hung out in the house this morning with her because the lightning was pretty close and I wasn't going to stand outside with her waiting for her to go potty! Once I was able to count up to nine one thousand between the flash and the noise I figured it was safe to go outside!
No word from L. She must be having a great time!
Happy 4th!
De
The plan for tomorrow is to head up to La Conner to be with Mom and Dad for a barbecue. I don't think the firework noise will bother Muppet - she hardly budged last night during the thunder storm and it didn't bother her when the thunder started up again this morning. I hung out in the house this morning with her because the lightning was pretty close and I wasn't going to stand outside with her waiting for her to go potty! Once I was able to count up to nine one thousand between the flash and the noise I figured it was safe to go outside!
No word from L. She must be having a great time!
Happy 4th!
De
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Early to Work . . . Not Early To Leave
Surprisingly I'm not tired or stressed - I got to work at 630 this morning and left at 630 this evening - I would have stayed later but I drove in today and the early Bird parking special only allows you to stay for 12 hours - early bird parking is $16 and if I had stayed it would have cost me $30. 12 hours is a long day though. I took a quick break to run to Subway - I was soooo craving a Tuna sandwich!! I will head in to work early again tomorrow. I had very intention of starting on my invoices first thing this morning but I kept getting interrupted with requests and other issues that needed my attention. I think I am still on track to meet my deadlines though - which is probably why I'm not stressed.
The gal that reports to me - Vicky - came in to work today so we'll see if she's decided she likes her job and is going to make some changes. A couple more errors on her part were brought to my attention today - they were issues that made the bank reconciliations out of balance and this is not the first time she has made this same error.
It is cooler today but it certainly was muggy when I got home - I also came home to some thunder and lightning. I thought maybe it was going to be a stormy night but it seems to have stopped. Muppet is glad it stopped! She was a little clingy when I got her out of the kitchen.
I'm watching So You Think You Can Dance - SYTYCD to those of us that are addicted! Just gonna watch that an head to bed - probably get to work at 630 again tomorrow.
De
The gal that reports to me - Vicky - came in to work today so we'll see if she's decided she likes her job and is going to make some changes. A couple more errors on her part were brought to my attention today - they were issues that made the bank reconciliations out of balance and this is not the first time she has made this same error.
It is cooler today but it certainly was muggy when I got home - I also came home to some thunder and lightning. I thought maybe it was going to be a stormy night but it seems to have stopped. Muppet is glad it stopped! She was a little clingy when I got her out of the kitchen.
I'm watching So You Think You Can Dance - SYTYCD to those of us that are addicted! Just gonna watch that an head to bed - probably get to work at 630 again tomorrow.
De
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Qtr End - Yay!
Gotta love Qtr End - I am so glad it only happens 4 times a year! Got in to work at 7 am today and left at 7 pm - 12 hours no lunch break - but I got all of my AdSpend downloads done on day 1!!!!! This means I shouldn't have to do extra weird calculations to get final numbers for the quarter!! So far I am on a good track to hit my deadlines so I shouldn't have to put in too much time on Friday 7/4 - yup, gotta work on the 4th - why is it that all the long weekends fall during either a Qtr end or a month end.
First thing this morning - well at 9am which is first thing for most of the people I work with - I got to have a performance meeting with the gal that reports to me. Fun Fun Fun! At least she didn't start crying, which is what usually happens whenever I have to meet with her. I made it very clear that her attitude does not fit in with the company's stated values - I told her that if she gets up in the morning and is happy to come to work and likes her job than great we want her here but if she gets up and hates to come in because she hates what she's doing then maybe it's time for her to make a change - either within the company or outside the company. Then game the discussion that during Qtr End there is no my job your job - we all work together to get financials closed on time - so it is expected that everyone will stay late to get things done - her main job is expense reports so I told her she needed to stay late to make sure she got everything in she had received - yeah that went in one ear and out the other because as soon as that clock hit 5 she was outta there. At least Matt is on my side and agrees with everything I said to her. We'll see how tomorrow goes.
No word from L today so things must be going better back in North Carolina. When I spoke with her yesterday I told her not to let Randi ruin her vacation and she said she wouldn't. Hopefully no word means everything is going well.
I am going to head to bed here soon - I want to get to work early again tomorrow to make sure I stay on track with my deadlines.
De
First thing this morning - well at 9am which is first thing for most of the people I work with - I got to have a performance meeting with the gal that reports to me. Fun Fun Fun! At least she didn't start crying, which is what usually happens whenever I have to meet with her. I made it very clear that her attitude does not fit in with the company's stated values - I told her that if she gets up in the morning and is happy to come to work and likes her job than great we want her here but if she gets up and hates to come in because she hates what she's doing then maybe it's time for her to make a change - either within the company or outside the company. Then game the discussion that during Qtr End there is no my job your job - we all work together to get financials closed on time - so it is expected that everyone will stay late to get things done - her main job is expense reports so I told her she needed to stay late to make sure she got everything in she had received - yeah that went in one ear and out the other because as soon as that clock hit 5 she was outta there. At least Matt is on my side and agrees with everything I said to her. We'll see how tomorrow goes.
No word from L today so things must be going better back in North Carolina. When I spoke with her yesterday I told her not to let Randi ruin her vacation and she said she wouldn't. Hopefully no word means everything is going well.
I am going to head to bed here soon - I want to get to work early again tomorrow to make sure I stay on track with my deadlines.
De
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