She's Got Big Ones

Before I get to the why let me set this up.

Last week there was an argument because we weren’t leaving right at 7:30 to take Baby C to the daycare like L wanted to.  I wouldn’t apologize and reminded L that I was doing her a favor and if it is so important to her that C get to the daycare at a specific time then she can walk.  Needless to say, that didn’t go over very well and she refused to see it that way – she saw it as me not caring or trying and that I just need to adjust when I get out of bed so I can be on the schedule she wants.

Last night, or I should say this morning as it was 2:30 am, Baby C started crying and L gave her a bottle (didn’t work) – turned on the Disney Channel (didn’t work) so she just let her cry.  At about 3:00 I had had enough so I got up and went in there and picked up C.  L said she didn’t know what she wanted and just wanted to sleep.  I took the baby into my room; we snuggled in bed for a bit, she looked out the window, had the rest of her bottle, and played with the blankets.  She just wasn’t tired and wanted to be with someone.  After about 45 min of this I took her back into her room and put her in her crib.  She cried for about 30 seconds, realized I wasn’t going to come back in, and went to sleep.

It was now almost 4 and my alarm goes off at 5:30.  I honestly contemplated just getting up and doing something but knew I would be way too tired later in the day so I went back to sleep.  Somehow, I turned my alarm off instead of hitting snooze and overslept until 7:30 (refer back up to the first paragraph!!)  I ran into Land C’s room and told her I overslept and she needed to get up.  At 7:42 the following conversation took place:

L:             It’s 7:42 and if I walk her to the daycare she will still miss breakfast.

Me:          What do you want me to say – I overslept.

L:             She still needs to go to daycare – why didn’t you get up

Me:          Maybe it’s because . .

L:             (interrupting) you did it on purpose!

Me:          No – I was going to say because I was up with your daughter in the middle of the night

L:             Just give me the keys and I’ll get her to the daycare

Me:          You’re not driving my car

L:             It’s only ½ a mile away nothing’s going to happen

Me:          You’re not driving my car

L:             What do you think is going to happen?  I’m not drunk

Me:          You’re not driving my car.   

L:             (walking out of the room and talking to C) I guess you don’t get to have breakfast

Told you – Big Ones!!  I’m still shaking my head that she had the nerve/balls to ask me to drive my car.

Baby C had yogurt and Cereal at home in case you were worried she didn’t get breakfast. J

De

Saturday

This was the first Saturday in over a month that I wasn't the Baby C Taxi!  It was wonderful!

For the last month I have had Baby C Friday night, gotten her ready Saturday Morning, driven her to her Dad,s and then picked her up.  The driving is 1 Hour each way. 

Baby C and L are gone for the weekend. Today I was able to have a relaxing shower, lunch with a friend, and a leisurely walk around Target!

When I got home I had the TVs in the living room and my room on the same channel so I could feed my addiction - Showtime was playing Twilight Breaking Dawn I and II back to back.  Love those movies and can't count how many times I've seen them!  

It was such a nice day.

D

Karma

Have you ever had someone do something to you where you said or thought - Karma will get you.  Sometimes Karma happens very quickly and other times it takes a long time - so long that you start to think Karma will never get them.  Well, I'm here to tell you that sometimes it's well worth the wait.  In my case, it took 20 years of waiting but Karma finally showed up!! 

Randi Lehmkuhl was the other woman 22years ago. She slept with my husband and he left me for her. She knew he was married with a baby but that didn't stop her. She is the baby of her family and always got what she wanted - didn't matter if it hurt anybody else. She also told my husband that he should try for full custody of our daughter because he was a better parent - of course that was before she "accidentally" got pregnant herself and they had to get married. Suddenly my daughter became this inconvenience that she had to deal with every other weekend. 

So now we jump ahead 20 years.  Karma took awhile to step in because Randi kept a pretty tight hold on my ex so he wasn't able to escape. He finally had a chance to make a move when he was able to get a job back in Washington and moved up here without her. He got a taste of freedom, breathed the fresh PNW air, and got his backbone and balls back.  He moved her out here and after a few months told her it was done. He wanted out.  

KARMA Sweetie - She's a bitch!!!

I decided to write this for 2 reasons - 

1. She posted on FB thanking her family for helping her through her darkest hours. That's what made me think - Karma's a Bitch!!  Hope you feel even worse than I did. 
2. Someone said to my ex that he was selfish and to think about what he was doing to his kids - where were these people when he left his first child. This person got a bit of Karma too - they know who they are and what it was. 

For those of you that may be thinking I played any part in this or that I was "the other" woman. Wrong!  I'm just happy for Karma, that L gets to have her father around, and C gets to have her G-Pa!

De

Semantics and Intolerance

I have noticed that people get so focused in on words these days that they are unable to hear or look at the whole meaning of what someone is saying.  Two examples come to mind from this week.

     1.  Mark Cuban – under fire for what he said in regards to the Donald Sterling racist issue.  Are people upset with the point he was trying to make . . . No. They are upset with one example he gave and are calling him a racist for it.

The point he was trying to make was that we all have internal judgments/prejudices based on how we perceive something or someone.  The example he gave was that if he were to see a black youth wearing a hoodie walking on the street late at night he would cross the street, if he saw a bald white guy with tattoos walking on that side of the street he would walk to the other side.  It’s all based on your internal thoughts and feelings. 

Is he getting hammered because of the substance of what he said – no!  People have pulled out one section of what he said - black youth wearing a hoodie. 

It’s not racism – its prejudice - which is different.  What is prejudice – it is pre judging!  We all do this whether it is based on color of skin, male/female, skinny/fat, young/old, American/foreigner . . . etc

      2. California Mayor – people are asking for him to be recalled because of 3 words he said.The mayor made remarks during a city council meeting regarding a proposal to put “Safe Zones” around town where children could go to seek refuge from bullies.  He responded with “I’m against bullying but I’m getting damn tired of it being used as a mantra for everything and the ills of the world. When all most people have to do is grow a pair and stick up for them damn selves.” 

      Can you pick out what people have clung to and are making a big deal about . . . . . you got it . . . . . grow a pair!  Was he saying that he doesn’t care about kids being bullied . . . . No!  He was expressing an opinion that he thinks “bullying” is being used to explain everything that is wrong with the world.

Does anyone else find that in these examples people are being vilified for not having the same opinion as everyone else?  They are being called racist and intolerant by others for not thinking the same way.  Isn't that intolerance! 

This is a country of freedom and free speech – not a country of freedom and free speech only if you think like everyone else.

D