Karma

Have you ever had someone do something to you where you said or thought - Karma will get you.  Sometimes Karma happens very quickly and other times it takes a long time - so long that you start to think Karma will never get them.  Well, I'm here to tell you that sometimes it's well worth the wait.  In my case, it took 20 years of waiting but Karma finally showed up!! 

Randi Lehmkuhl was the other woman 22years ago. She slept with my husband and he left me for her. She knew he was married with a baby but that didn't stop her. She is the baby of her family and always got what she wanted - didn't matter if it hurt anybody else. She also told my husband that he should try for full custody of our daughter because he was a better parent - of course that was before she "accidentally" got pregnant herself and they had to get married. Suddenly my daughter became this inconvenience that she had to deal with every other weekend. 

So now we jump ahead 20 years.  Karma took awhile to step in because Randi kept a pretty tight hold on my ex so he wasn't able to escape. He finally had a chance to make a move when he was able to get a job back in Washington and moved up here without her. He got a taste of freedom, breathed the fresh PNW air, and got his backbone and balls back.  He moved her out here and after a few months told her it was done. He wanted out.  

KARMA Sweetie - She's a bitch!!!

I decided to write this for 2 reasons - 

1. She posted on FB thanking her family for helping her through her darkest hours. That's what made me think - Karma's a Bitch!!  Hope you feel even worse than I did. 
2. Someone said to my ex that he was selfish and to think about what he was doing to his kids - where were these people when he left his first child. This person got a bit of Karma too - they know who they are and what it was. 

For those of you that may be thinking I played any part in this or that I was "the other" woman. Wrong!  I'm just happy for Karma, that L gets to have her father around, and C gets to have her G-Pa!

De

Semantics and Intolerance

I have noticed that people get so focused in on words these days that they are unable to hear or look at the whole meaning of what someone is saying.  Two examples come to mind from this week.

     1.  Mark Cuban – under fire for what he said in regards to the Donald Sterling racist issue.  Are people upset with the point he was trying to make . . . No. They are upset with one example he gave and are calling him a racist for it.

The point he was trying to make was that we all have internal judgments/prejudices based on how we perceive something or someone.  The example he gave was that if he were to see a black youth wearing a hoodie walking on the street late at night he would cross the street, if he saw a bald white guy with tattoos walking on that side of the street he would walk to the other side.  It’s all based on your internal thoughts and feelings. 

Is he getting hammered because of the substance of what he said – no!  People have pulled out one section of what he said - black youth wearing a hoodie. 

It’s not racism – its prejudice - which is different.  What is prejudice – it is pre judging!  We all do this whether it is based on color of skin, male/female, skinny/fat, young/old, American/foreigner . . . etc

      2. California Mayor – people are asking for him to be recalled because of 3 words he said.The mayor made remarks during a city council meeting regarding a proposal to put “Safe Zones” around town where children could go to seek refuge from bullies.  He responded with “I’m against bullying but I’m getting damn tired of it being used as a mantra for everything and the ills of the world. When all most people have to do is grow a pair and stick up for them damn selves.” 

      Can you pick out what people have clung to and are making a big deal about . . . . . you got it . . . . . grow a pair!  Was he saying that he doesn’t care about kids being bullied . . . . No!  He was expressing an opinion that he thinks “bullying” is being used to explain everything that is wrong with the world.

Does anyone else find that in these examples people are being vilified for not having the same opinion as everyone else?  They are being called racist and intolerant by others for not thinking the same way.  Isn't that intolerance! 

This is a country of freedom and free speech – not a country of freedom and free speech only if you think like everyone else.

D